Tuesday, June 12, 2012

1096 Days

I've been married for 3 years as of today! That is 1096 days (with the leap year!) I can't believe it - but hitting the 1000 day mark is a big accomplishment. I was lucky enough to marry my best friend. I am lucky enough to be married to him and I'm lucky enough that he has gone on this amazing journey of life with me. Since I haven't really talked alot about my marriage, I thought I would celebrate with you all today with reflection on love, WLS, and the future.

I met my husband on January 8, 2008 in Omaha, Nebraska in person. We actually met online and talked for a few months prior to meeting, but the day I met him I knew I was in love. He was the "one" and it was love at first sight for me. We became very good friends and throughout 2008 we attempted to date on and off. We just weren't on the right time clock. I loved him and was head over heals for him, but he wasn't ready for a relationship like we have so I was his best girlfriend and he dated other women. He encouraged me to date others too, but I didn't want to at all. I wanted to be with Justin! I took his advice and started dating another guy. This was the best thing that could of happened because in Spring of 2009 Justin became jealous! Yes, jealous. Justin started to realize that I was special and that he wanted to be with me, but again the timing wasn't right.

That Spring I became very ill. I was in the middle of my last semester of graduate school, working crazy hours, and being sick wasn't in the plan. I ended up in the hospital and it was during this time that Justin and I truly fell in love with each other. We would spend hours and hours texting and talking on the phone late at night. It was his support, his understanding, and concern that made me go "oooh" and "ahhh" over this amazing man that was my best friend. I started job searching across the country during this time. He was there every step of the way even as each and every school I interviewed with was not in Nebraska. Through a month of coast to coast interviews, Justin stayed positive and kept pushing me to go...where I wanted though he was a huge part of the decision in some ways. I received a job offer in TN in the beginning of May of 2009 and planned to move there with or without him. Ofcourse I didn't want to go without him, but we weren't together. We weren't a couple.

Fate has a way of taking us on a different course. I ended up leaving my job in Nebraska earlier than anticipated and moved in with Justin; prior to the move from Crete to Omaha, Justin stayed with me for a week. During that time I asked him you know if we do "do this" and be together I'm in it for the long haul and he agreed! Okay...I was floored. I remember that moment like the moment I met him. He wanted to choose me over all the other girls! I moved to Omaha with him as I was waiting to move to TN. We fell in love in that small apt in Omaha. We laughed, we cried, we understood what it was to live with each other. Then we decided that we didn't want to be apart. We decided to get married on May 28th!

After the 28th the blur of life happened. I thought of dates for a wedding...we could be separated a year...no 6 months...then we were going to move him and his school. Finally I remember him asking me what I needed to be married and I said - just my Dad here. My Dad was coming to see me anyway, so we found a judge and got married on Friday, June 12, 2009. It was pouring to the point that Justin's pants were wet to his knees, but it is the happiest day I've ever had!

I married my best friend. I married a man that I thought the world of and so much more. I made the first decision of my life on love instead of rational logical thinking. It was a whirlwind. Moved in May 15 - engaged May 28 - married June 12 - and moved to TN on June 21. I would have changed anything about it because it was our moment.

We've changed over the last 3 years, but that is normal. We are a couple. We love each other deeply and fight madly. We are opposite and the same. We are crazy and boring. We are just normal average people trying to figure out marriage - which we both agree is the hardest thing we have ever done! I thought with the WLS that he would love me less, but he loves me more. I don't look anything like I did the day we got married, but I'm still as happy. Happiness is work. My happiness with my body is work, but whether I was 300 + lbs or 185 lbs he loves me...all of me. I can't imagine my life without him.


  1. Congratulations!!!! Here's to many more years!

  2. A day late but Happy Anniversary!

  3. Thanks for sharing your "love story"; so happy for you guys!